Wednesday, February 1, 2012

saying "no"

any oklahoma fans out there? in the musical, there's a song sung by my favorite character, ado annie, called "I'm just a girl who cain't say no". while her context of the song is a smidge different than what I'm talking about, sometimes I think this song could be my mantra.

however, lately I have been saying no quite a lot. and I hate it.

because I really really want to say yes.

I want to say yes to bridal showers. I want to say yes to dinners with friends. I want to say yes to going to the Y. I want to say yes to catching up with friends and calling people when I know they are having a rough time.

but I've been saying no. and it's kind of miserable. and I don't have any words of wisdom about this. no solutions or grand things I feel like have been revealed to me. just a lack of energy, lots of studying/school work and a desire to sleep.

so...I pose these questions:

do you think saying no ever gets easier?

does anyone have wise words for saying no when you want to say yes?

what about saying no when you actually do want to say no, but don't want to let someone down?

for reals. insight=appreciated.

andddd because o chem has to have some kind of humor, or it would have no redeeming qualities...

a text from one of my favorites:

U will NOT fail. you are going to make alkenes your biotch (I felt so bad typing that word, but it seemed appropriate).

and leaving class yesterday...

professor: your test is thursday. study hard. I'll be here at 3 for those who want to start early. and I'll stay until...well...until it's time for margaritas!

maybe he's not so bad after all.


jenna said...
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jenna said...

I don't have all the answers for you, Ash. But I do know this: A good friend understands when you have to say "no".
So don't worry! This friend right here understands, isn't holding it against you, and is in your corner cheering you on as you "make alkenes your b".

Michelle said...

I don't know if saying "no" ever gets easier...but I think in my own life I've noticed the more practice you get, the better you get at you can be good at it, but it's still difficult. (don't know if that makes sense to you). And Ash, you are an absolutely great friend/person and everyone knows that we have to say no sometimes because we have to take care of ourselves too. :) (PS you'll make a GREAT dietitian one day!)

ashley said...

you guys are awesome. your understanding and encouragement is better than gigi's and fro yo. and we all know that means a LOT.

Katie Johnson said...

It's okay to say no sometimes, definitely, but also, don't let yourself come to ruin, and take some time to do other stuff if you need to! I hope soon you're back to feeling like it's a beautiful day and everything is goin' your way :)

ashley said...

thanks so much, katie! you are right - I'm learning it's about balance!